Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession?
||Author: Jennifer Schneider MD Ph.D, Robert Weiss, Jennifer P. Schneider|
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Publisher: Hazelden Information Education (May, 2001)
Sales Rank: 43,366
Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5
Customer ReviewsRating: 3 out of 5
decent, but ...
overall, i would say the book was decent. definitely good for someone who has no idea what sort of environments can be found on the internet. also, i'm sure that many people may find it helpful.
however, i do have a couple issues with the book.
overall, the tone is somewhat alarmist, at times bordering on the sensational (the title alone is an example), in particular, chapter 3 "cybersex out of control." the chapter is relentless in giving 'real' stories (19 in a chapter of only 20 pages), and with phrases like "read on to see how a cybersex user's inattention to his children may cost him his marriage," it sounds like a tabloid. also in this chapter is the comment "compulsive [cybersex] use can demand large sums of money for upgrades to computer equipment." this feels like a scare tactic. as a computer professional, i can't imagine someone putting more than several hundred dollars into upgrading their computer for cybersex use. even if you were to buy a brand new, fairly high end computer, it still wouldn't cost more than a couple thousand dollars. expensive, perhaps, but not the "large sums of money" the book implies.
my last issue is this. chapter 5 begins with another 'real' story that runs for about a page and a half. the next couple of pages give a few more, shorter 'real' stories. and then, just 4 pages after the first story, a section of that very same first story is presented as a different example of a 'real' story that supports the point being made, when it is, in fact, merely a repetition of the initial story. this is either sloppy editorial work, or, worse, an effort to beef up the content by making one example sound like two. by itself it doesn't seem like much, but it makes me wonder if more of these various 'real' stories come from the same source and not from a variety of sources. in short, it makes me question the integrity of the data.
singly, these examples i've given may appear minor; put together, however, they give me pause about the overall calibre of this book.
Rating: 5 out of 5
Realistic guide to understanding cybersex and addiction
Good examples of recreational versus obsessive and addictive use allow the reader to determine if they are at risk, in trouble, or just exploring one of the many avenues available on the Internet. The book offers realistic and useful ways to safeguard computer use for anyone who is compulsive about their use plus lists helpful resources. Parents can also use this book to learn how easily children/teens can get involved in unhealthy cybersex chatting and what to do to keep home computer use safer for everyone. Timely addition to any professional or home library.
Rating: 5 out of 5
A great title from the experts
Jennifer Schneider and Robert Weiss have created a fair-minded and thorough work on the problems real people experience with sexual addiction on the internet. They provide intelligent discussions of the reasons the internet is so potentially addictive, the kinds of behaviors many addicts find themselves engaging in, and real-life examples of addicts' experiences covering a wide range of age, gender, sexual orientation, and social situation. I highly recommend this book both for the individual or co-addict confronting this problem and for therapists and counselors seeking a deeper understanding of the issue.
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